… it is important that we learn to make peace with our past if we are to create a new and compelling future.

Extracts from the forward by Dr. Joe Vitale – There are many books that come into my orbit, most are good but occasionally one is excellent – Reconstruct your life is one such book… … Tony teachers in such a simple and compelling way that anyone who wants to grow out of their past will... …Some of these ideas are; cultivating success is not a straight line – help reclaim your life and his advice on not to wait for the perfect time is always a timeous reminder… …So buy it, read it, apply the lessons and keep it next to your bed to reread and reread again.” (Dr. Joe Vitale is the best-selling author of numerous books, from The Attractor Factor to Zero Limits and Attract Money Now. He has appeared in many movies, most notably as a standout star in The Secret.)

Part 1: Let Go of The Past

Chapter 1: Accept Yourself As You Are 7

Complete Acceptance 8

Finding a Path to Wholeness 12

How do we get connect with the essence of our core self ? 13

What if in connecting with the core self, we dislike who we are? 14

You Are Perfect As You Are 15

Learning to Love Yourself 17

Chapter 2: You Are Exactly Where You Are Meant To Be 21

Everything Happens For a Reason 23

Trust In the Process of Life 25

Trust = Surrender + Faith 25

What You Resist Persists 27

Go With The Flow 30

Chapter 3: Your Past Does Not Define You, It Shapes You 33

Living Fully In the Present Moment 33

Your Challenges Are Your Lessons 35

Yield To Your Challenges 37

Lessons In Overcoming Challenges 37

Overcoming Adversity 39

Adversity Is an Indication, Not a Cause 39

Adversity Teaches You Valuable Lessons 39

Adversity as Your Guide 40

Remain Motivated When Life Seems To Be Against You 41

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Where There's a Will There's A Way 44

Wilful Purpose + Determination (WHY?) = Inspired Success 46

Chapter 4: There Are No Mistakes 47

Embracing What Is 47

Life's Greatest Lessons 49

Collaborating With the Forces of Life 52

Release Your Expectations 55

Life Is A Beautiful Struggle 57

Chapter 5: Make Peace with the Past 61

Healing the Past Is Vital to a Successful Future 61

Face Your Demons 63

Practicing Self-Compassion and Self-Acceptance 66

Transforming Guilt and Shame 68

Learning to Love Yourself Again 70

Chapter 6: Lessons on Forgiveness 77

Forgive and Release the Past 77

Unconscious thought patterns. 77

The Unexamined Life 78

Stop Punishing Yourself 80

Don't Believe Everything You Think 82

Chapter 7: Let Go Of the Pain 85

Stop Holding On To the Pain 85

Letting Go of the Wounded Victim 90

Life Doesn't Always Go According To Plan 92

Chapter 8: What Is Holding You Back? 95

How Beliefs Create Your Reality 97

Overcoming Obstacles 100

Failure Is Not an Option, It's a Prerequisite 102

Giving Up Is Not an Option 105

Accept Yourself As You Are 109

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You Are Exactly Where You Are Meant To Be 109

Your Past Does Not Define You, It Shapes You 110

There Are No Mistakes 110

Make Peace with the Past 110

Lessons on Forgiveness 111

Letting Go Of the Pain 111

What Is Holding You Back? 112

Part 2: Create a Remarkable Future

Chapter 9: Rewrite A New Life Script 115

Finding Your Life's Purpose 115

Give Meaning to Your Life 119

Live an Inspired Life 122

Step into Your Dreams 124

Chapter 10: Take Control of Your Life 129

Take Control of Your Life 129

Step Out of Your Comfort Zone 132

Fear As Your Best Friend 134

Let Go of Your Fear of Failure 137

Overcoming Self-Doubt 138

Chapter 11: Step Into Your Own Power 141

Seek The Truth 143

Live Passionately 146

Reclaim Your Life 149

Chapter 12: Find Yourself and Be That 153

Find Yourself and Be That 153

Stop Running On Autopilot 158

Waiting for the Perfect Moment? 160

Develop a Powerful Presence 163

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Chapter 13: Reveal Your Inner Wisdom 167

Unlimited Power 167

Cultivate Open-mindedness 169

Awaken Your Authentic Self 172

Chapter 14: Create a Purposeful Vision for Success 175

Create a Personal Life Plan 175

Commit to Your Goals 178

Success Is Not a Straight Line 181

Chapter 15: Conclusion 185

A Remarkable Future Beckons 185