Our veterans were willing to die for freedom. Thankfully they came home. Families are grateful for the safe return of their heroes. Until they see the changes. Many couples struggle to stay together through substance abuse, mental illness, depression, PTSD, physical injury and illness.

Our veterans and their caregivers are paying "the other ultimate sacrifice" of learning to love each other again, finding purpose and joy in their new paradigm, and refusing to give in to judgment, shame and hopelessness. Jill married the man of her dreams, but thought something had gone terribly wrong. She thought the answer to their pain was to fix all his problems, and make him be the man she knew before the war. She learned that true love has nothing to do with similarities, chemistry or needing each other.

In her deeply personal account, Jill teaches: 1) Principles of emotional and spiritual recovery and health, 2) Self-care techniques that will get you from overwhelm to clarity, and 3) How to negotiate circumstances that are out of your control. Starting now, experiencing the "other ultimate sacrifice" can be your springboard to creating the life you want and deserve as you learn these tools.

Part I

Chapter 1 He Tried to Kill Me!

Chapter 2 Frisbees and Fire Pits

Chapter 3 The Honeymoon

Chapter 4 Blindsided

Chapter 5 Navy Girlfriends and Tornado Safety

Chapter 6 Baby Boys and Plan B

Chapter 7 Family—The Backup Crew

Chapter 8 Alone with Grace

Part II The Enemy Exposed

Chapter 9 T-ball and Forgiveness

Chapter 10 Another Baby—Or a Puppy

Chapter 11 Barbed Wire and Window Bars

Chapter 12 The End of the World—As We Knew It

Chapter 13 Little Einstein

Chapter 14 A Trip to the Mall—And the Doctor

Chapter 15 Doing Time—In the Hospital

Part III The Enemy Within

Chapter 16 Our Miracle Baby—And No Answers

Chapter 17 VA Flop and Trucking

Chapter 18 Willpower and Dirty Dishes

Chapter 19 Violin Lessons and Burgers

Chapter 20 The Eyes Sees What the Mind Looks For

Chapter 21 Danger, Danger—Unknown Ahead

Chapter 22 Emotions: Friends—and Honored Guests

Part IV Defying the Enemy

Chapter 23 Kind Helpers and Cold Shoulders

Chapter 24 Floam and Suicide Prevention

Chapter 25 Eggshells and Peacemakers

Chapter 26 The Face of God

Chapter 27 Infinite Worth and Lovability

Part V The Enemy Denied

Chapter 28 Compassion – A Beautiful State

Chapter 29 Learning and Letting Go

Chapter 30 Toss the Manual

Chapter 31 On/Off Switch

Chapter 32 Faith vs Fear

Chapter 33 Play: The Opposite of Depression

Chapter 34 Layering Emotions

Chapter 35 The Other Ultimate Sacrifice