In Relationships Matter, Chanel Scott gets real about relationships and shares anecdotes from her life to help readers achieve true partnership within their romantic relationship.

Healthy relationships are no accident. They are the result of intense self-work and elevated consideration of your partner. How you consider their feelings, past, emotional intelligence, and even desires all lend themselves to the success of your relationship. Creating CheMinistry has allowed Chanel to learn more about the issues that doom relationships bringing them to an early demise. In this book, Chanel shares lessons from her life that contribute to the overall well-being of long-lasting relationships and marriages. Keenly aware of the growth necessary to move beyond her past's hurt, pain, and frustration, Chanel intimates portions of her life's story to illuminate her journey of enlightenment and the establishment of a healthy self-awareness that makes her a suitable partner.

Relationships Matter is a work of the heart as Chanel has proven since the inception of CheMinistry that relationships matter to her. She wants to see men and women thrive in healthy relationships and has written this book for that cause.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Foreword . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1

It's a Matt er of Relationship . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3

Making It All Make Sense . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5

Imminent Death . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19

You Need This, Not That! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31

Is It Love or Lust? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37

I'm a Work in Progress . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43

Doing the Work . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47

Extracting Your Emotions . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49

Give the Gift of Forgiveness . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 55

Establishing Healthy Boundaries . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61

Remove Yourself from Love Rooted in Rejection . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67

What It Means to Me . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 73

Do You Hear Yourself? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 81

You're Not Crazy, You're Traumatized! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87

Breaking the Bonds of Trauma . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93

The Commitment to Love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 99

Epilogue . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103

The Feelings Wheel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107